I’m a discouraged Christian. By that I mean, I know I’m a Christian, but my faith isn’t working for me right now. So I’m coming to your church, and here’s what I need:
1. I don’t really feel God right now and I need to feel something. So make sure there is something going on in your church that will touch me emotionally.
2. When you talk so confidently about your close relationship with God, I’m going to tend not to believe it because you make it sound so simple. Let me know you’ve struggled too, but you’ve come through at a better place.
3. If people around me ignore me and act like I’m not there, it’s going to convince me this whole idea of loving one another in Jesus’ name is just a bunch of words and really doesn’t work. If people can’t make me feel wanted and welcomed without being watched and worn-out at church, how in the world am I ever going to get back what I feel like I’ve lost?
4. I’m questioning a lot of the things I’ve always believed; that God is indeed good, that He’s close, that He hears prayer. Don’t just tell me that He does, teach me. Use the Scripture. Help me see and have insights that gain more than the shallow understanding I’ve always lived with.
5. Help me understand why God can be so silent for so long. How can He put up with the pain that so many good people feel and seemingly allow bad people to prosper? That’s your job as your responsibility, not mine while I’m at church.
6. Provide music that touches my heart; that gets through my emotional defenses, because that’s the one thing I can still feel. It still communicates to me. If all of your music is just happy music repeating the same phrase or verse over and over again, I’m not going to get it because I know it’s not that easy.
7. Encourage me. I need it. It may sound like a shallow need, but it’s real to me.
8. Inspire me. That’s your job, all of your responsibility. Inspire me. Inspire me to believe, to embrace God.
9. Give me hope; hope that things will be better, hope that what I am going through is indeed normal; that God is there and though He is silent, He is never still.
I’m a discouraged Christian and I’m desperate. Can you help me?
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I am so exactly where this is talking about. DISCOURAGED!!!! I am a Christian. I lost my job 2 years ago, am about to loose my COBRA insurance, haven’t been able to find another job, and can’t be without insurance because I have children. I have prayed, yelled, cried, even begged for God to provide guidance, show goodness and work in my life in regards to a job and improving my life in general, to no avail. I don’t know what else to do. I want/need God to do some serious showing up ASAP because I am scared to death.
I am a Discouraged Christian for this reason. I in the blink of an Eye lost My Sunday School of 9 yrs , and other things I was doing in the church including Just keeping it clean I got Joy from that . I have now been out of church 6 months with so many things i want to do for the Lord in my heart and not a place to do anything so I have taken a seat . I read I love the Lord I love my fellow man and Churches enemie I just want to serve.
Hello Tina,
I no you are discouraged and want to work in the Church, but our main job is to DEPART TO SERVE. I work is not IN the Church our work is OUTSIDE the church. If you can help somebody along the way then your living is not in vain. If they will not let you do anything in the church. Get in the Word (Bible) and get outside those 4 walls and do the work of the Lord. Only what we do for Christ will last. Get off of that pew and start working While it is DAY for when night comes no man can work. The Enemy is trying to take your eyes of your purpose and that is to serve, because we are servants of God. Don’t you want to hear Him say ” Well done they good and faithful Servant you’ve me faithful over a few things and I will make you ruler over many things. Now get joy out of spreading the Good News somebody (JESUS) who can SAVE anybody! I Love Ya! Your Sister in Christ
I googled “discouraged Christian”. That sounds very much like me, but I’m in church at least twice a week. Never encouraged.
If you attend a church that offers you little encouragement, maybe you owe it to yourself to move on?
There is a good church out there who will love you and lift you up. Don’t be afraid to good looking!
I understand, I’ve been through 25 churches. When you are discouraged though it isn’t a FEELING you need. Feelings fade. God loves us whether we feel Him or not. Our world is so dark, even the Christians are messed up, because they still want to live for themselves. So they will be accountable for abandoning you. Just keep looking for a place and pray for the right place, maybe being alone is God’s message for you to reach out and make a home group that does what you are seeking? You’re on my heart, I’m with you on this all.