How to Turn a Dud Into a Dude: Today @ The Gathering

Today @ The Gathering we continued in our current series “Accept No Mediocre Marriage” by dealing with how you help your mate make the changes they need to make.

One of the neat things about today’s talk was I interviewed my wife Paula for the first 10 minutes.  She talked about our relationship, how we met, and how – through her willingness to take a stand – my life was changed through a spiritual conversion to Jesus Christ.

We talked about the ways we make each other miserable trying to force changes in our lives by nagging, complaining, betraying a trust, all the normal things that seem to come all too naturally to us.

We also talked about the insights, that we are agents of change; that we do have the capacity to bring out the very best in our mate.  We are catalysts, not commanders.  In marriage we do not have power, but we have something better: influence. We can inspire, and model the behavior we want to see.  As a matter of fact we must model the behavior we want to see in every member of our family.  We talked about how you get it done, how you make application, and how you can see real change and turn-around in your marriage relationship.

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