{"id":1500,"date":"2010-02-23T10:51:53","date_gmt":"2010-02-23T16:51:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/192.185.166.32\/~davidfoster\/?p=1500"},"modified":"2010-02-23T10:51:53","modified_gmt":"2010-02-23T16:51:53","slug":"dave-rave-5-things-you-should-be-doing-while-waiting-for-mating","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/dave-rave-5-things-you-should-be-doing-while-waiting-for-mating\/","title":{"rendered":"Dave Rave – 5 Things You Should be Doing While Waiting for Mating"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"daverave\"It\u2019s a shocking statistic when you wake up to realize that less than half of the adults in America are married; down over 34% from 30 years ago.\u00a0 This is unacceptable and we need to do something about it.<\/p>\n

There are two kinds of people: those who are married, and those who want to get married.\u00a0 Now I know there are exceptions to that so don\u2019t email me or hate me.\u00a0 I understand there are people who are single, called to be single, and love being single.\u00a0 But this is by far the minority and the exception, not the rule.\u00a0 And so therefore we should never make the exception the rule.\u00a0 We should be encouraging men and women to get married.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The problem is, we don\u2019t ever really tell them what to do in the interim between wanting to get married, finding the right person, and actually getting married; much less the skills it takes to be married.\u00a0 But that\u2019s a whole other story.<\/p>\n

So let me make this offer.\u00a0 Here are five things if you\u2019re single and want to get married (and you should), five things you should be doing while waiting for mating.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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  1. Get real clear as to what you believe and where you stand.<\/strong> It\u2019s important to settle the issues of ethics, morals, and values.\u00a0 Beliefs are incredibly important<\/em>.\u00a0 They become the base on which a future relationship will be established.\u00a0 You\u2019ve heard people say, \u201cWe\u2019re not on the same page.\u201d\u00a0 When they say that, what they\u2019re talking about is this issue of beliefs.\u00a0 As you look for a mate, make sure you understand what beliefs are non-negotiable<\/em>, what things you simply will not compromise in order to get a date, or get someone to agree to marry you.\u00a0 Establish those things, stand on them, and don\u2019t compromise them.\u00a0 Determine what you can compromise and what you can\u2019t, and stand right there.<\/li>\n
  2. Establish a career path that will allow you to take care of a wife and a family. <\/strong> One of the most important things for a woman looking for a mate is that he have a job, and not just a job, but a career that has long-term prospects; that promises that this family will be financially viable once it is established. We criticize people for making money and spending time in a career, and yet it takes both to be able to provide the security that a family needs to grow and be happy.<\/li>\n
  3. Work on being <\/em>the right person.<\/strong> Often we\u2019re so fixated on finding the right person, we fail to understand that first of all, we have to be<\/em> the right person. If you are not happy before<\/em> you get married, you are not going to be happy after<\/em> you get married.\u00a0 If you\u2019re a sad dog spreading gloom before you\u2019re married, you\u2019ll be that after you get married.\u00a0 Work on your personal issues.\u00a0 Grow strong.\u00a0 Have a strong spiritual, emotional life.\u00a0 Take care of yourself physically.\u00a0 Keep in shape.\u00a0 Be the right person.\u00a0 You\u2019ll be amazed at how you\u2019ll attract the right person.<\/li>\n
  4. Establish a strong support base.<\/strong> Often we seek to get married and we think we have a kingdom of two.\u00a0 A man and a woman get married, cut themselves off from their family and friends, and move on \u201cconflict island.\u201d\u00a0 They live in a world all by themselves and when trouble comes, as it surely will, they have no strong base for support, counsel, and advice.\u00a0 So, right now, begin to build a strong base of family and friends that will continue to be with you after you\u2019ve entered the blissful land of matrimony.<\/li>\n
  5. Never, never, never, ever date a person you can\u2019t see yourself marrying. <\/strong> Now what I mean by dating is going out with someone consistently over a period of time.\u00a0 I\u2019m not saying you can\u2019t go out with someone, hang with someone, have coffee with someone, go skiing with someone and enjoy someone\u2019s company.\u00a0 But when you start dating, you should be starting to get serious.\u00a0 If you\u2019ve done the first four things I\u2019ve asked you to do, then you\u2019ll be able to see those other qualities reflected in this person.\u00a0 The second you see that this person doesn\u2019t share your beliefs, doesn\u2019t share your sense of value and direction in life; once you realize you\u2019re not on the same page, stop dating.<\/strong> No mercy dating.\u00a0 Don\u2019t worry about hurting their feelings.\u00a0 You\u2019ll hurt them a lot less now than you will later.\u00a0 So never, never, date someone you can\u2019t see yourself marrying.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Marriage is God\u2019s idea and ideal.\u00a0 The Scriptures begin with a marriage, end with a marriage, and almost everything in between is learning how to either be married, parent children, or live in a family.\u00a0 Relationships are key to life.\u00a0 Being connected in loving, lasting relationships is God\u2019s will.\u00a0 We grow them like in a garden, and build them like in a factory.\u00a0 There are things you can do, skills you can learn that will make your life and your relationships and your ultimate marriage as great as you dreamed it would ever be.<\/p>\n

    Check out the upcoming study for guys<\/strong> at Gathering 4 Guys<\/a>: Tuesdays @ 7:00 – 8:15 AM, April 6- May 11.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    It\u2019s a shocking statistic when you wake up to realize that less than half of the adults in America are married; down over 34% from 30 years ago.\u00a0 This is unacceptable and we need to do something about it. There are two kinds of people: those who are married, and those who want to get … Continue reading “Dave Rave – 5 Things You Should be Doing While Waiting for Mating”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[],"series":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1500"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1500"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1500\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1500"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1500"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1500"},{"taxonomy":"series","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/series?post=1500"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}