{"id":1694,"date":"2010-03-17T03:58:03","date_gmt":"2010-03-17T09:58:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/192.185.166.32\/~davidfoster\/?p=1694"},"modified":"2010-03-17T06:01:35","modified_gmt":"2010-03-17T12:01:35","slug":"dave-rave-five-signs-you%e2%80%99re-not-having-any-fun-at-all","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/dave-rave-five-signs-you%e2%80%99re-not-having-any-fun-at-all\/","title":{"rendered":"Dave Rave – Five Signs You\u2019re Not Having Any Fun At All"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"daverave\"If you listen to people when they explain high-performance, super-success, or good luck, you\u2019ll invariably hear the word \u201cfun.\u201d\u00a0 It felt like fun<\/em>.\u00a0 I was having fun out there<\/em>.\u00a0 They\u2019re having fun<\/em>.\u00a0 We\u2019re having fun<\/em>.\u00a0 I wonder sometimes if we don\u2019t underestimate how important having fun is.\u00a0 As a matter of fact, if you\u2019re not having fun at work, at home, and in your own life, something\u2019s terribly wrong.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Here are five signs you\u2019re not having any fun at all.\u00a0 And something desperately needs to change before you break.<\/p>\n

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  1. You\u2019re not having fun when you\u2019re feeding off your regrets.<\/strong> You know what I am talking about. Those feelings about the things that didn\u2019t happen or the things that someone did to you, or didn\u2019t do for you that you spend most of your head-space thinking about or regretting from the past.\u00a0 Regrets will kill you, separate you, destroy your marriage and your future.\u00a0 You need to find a way to find forgiveness and extend it to those who\u2019ve wounded you.<\/em><\/li>\n
  2. You\u2019re not having fun when you wake up and dread the day ahead.<\/strong> This usually happens when we get stuck in a rut of the same behaviors.\u00a0 It\u2019s easy to blame the government, blame the economy, parents, our wife, our husband, or other people.\u00a0 But the truth of the matter is, if you dread the day ahead, it\u2019s a dread you\u2019ve created and the minute you get sick and tired of being sick and tired and make different choices, you can change the dread to something you look forward to.<\/li>\n
  3. You\u2019re not having fun when you\u2019re not coming clean with your friends and your trusted advisers<\/strong>.\u00a0 Way too many of us carry the burdens of our inner life – failures, unmet expectations, wounds – because we simply don\u2019t have anyone to offload them to.\u00a0 Often times talking about a thing is the very thing that can cleanse it.\u00a0 It\u2019s like opening a wound and letting all the infection out.\u00a0 The problem is, most of us don\u2019t have close, intimate friends we would trust with our deepest, darkest secrets.\u00a0 I was interviewing a couple I am going to marry in the future and the girl said that her maid of honor was going to be a guy. I thought that was strange.\u00a0 But when she said, \u201cHe\u2019s my best friend,\u201d\u00a0 I thought, \u201cThis is bad.\u201d\u00a0 You need to be marrying your best friend, someone who can hear your heart.\u00a0 You need to have\u00a0 relationships.\u00a0 That\u2019s why you need a church where you serve and get connected, because you have trusted friends in your life.\u00a0 You\u2019ll never have any fun carrying around all the dirt and garbage that you\u2019ve collected over a lifetime.<\/li>\n
  4. You\u2019re not having any fun when you\u2019re overeating as a socially acceptable way to medicate your pain.<\/strong> Enough said.<\/li>\n
  5. You\u2019re not having any fun if you\u2019re not having any sex. <\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    I thought that would get your attention.\u00a0 Let me say this.\u00a0 If you\u2019re not married, you shouldn\u2019t be having any sex anyway.\u00a0 If you\u2019re not married and having sex, that\u2019s a part of your problem.\u00a0 You\u2019re carrying around dread and guilt; that dirty feeling that you\u2019ve violated yourself, and you have.<\/em><\/p>\n

    But if you\u2019re married and your not having any sex, you\u2019re definitely not having any fun.\u00a0 What I\u2019ve found is this: a good marriage is populated by two people who know how to love each other well.\u00a0 To be good lovers to each other is important.\u00a0 And that just doesn\u2019t begin in the bedroom.\u00a0 Actually, it begins in the kitchen.\u00a0 It begins with building a loving relationship and it ends with an intimacy; beautiful, sexual intimacy that\u2019s fulfilling to both partners, not just one.\u00a0 I\u2019m not talking about the porn star hanging from the chandelier, doing the dirty deed.\u00a0 I\u2019m talking about the expression of emotional, intellectual, and spiritual love in a physical act that God thought up, created, ordains, and blesses.<\/p>\n

    Can you tell I\u2019m passionate about this whole sex thing?\u00a0 The point is, if you\u2019re married and not having any sex, you\u2019ve got serious, serious problems and you need help before you wake up one day and either one of your \u201cgive a damns\u201d is busted.<\/p>\n

    If you\u2019re not having any fun, simply say today, \u201cI won\u2019t tolerate this anymore in my life and get it fixed.\u00a0 And you know where you get it fixed?\u00a0 On the inside.\u00a0 You\u2019re the key.\u00a0 Make different choices, and you can have fun again.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    If you listen to people when they explain high-performance, super-success, or good luck, you\u2019ll invariably hear the word \u201cfun.\u201d\u00a0 It felt like fun.\u00a0 I was having fun out there.\u00a0 They\u2019re having fun.\u00a0 We\u2019re having fun.\u00a0 I wonder sometimes if we don\u2019t underestimate how important having fun is.\u00a0 As a matter of fact, if you\u2019re not … Continue reading “Dave Rave – Five Signs You\u2019re Not Having Any Fun At All”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[],"series":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1694"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1694"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1694\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1694"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1694"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1694"},{"taxonomy":"series","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/series?post=1694"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}