{"id":1910,"date":"2010-04-19T06:08:03","date_gmt":"2010-04-19T12:08:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/192.185.166.32\/~davidfoster\/?p=1910"},"modified":"2010-04-19T06:08:03","modified_gmt":"2010-04-19T12:08:03","slug":"just-because-you-don%e2%80%99t-have-problems-in-your-marriage-doesn%e2%80%99t-mean-you%e2%80%99re-not-in-deep-trouble","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/just-because-you-don%e2%80%99t-have-problems-in-your-marriage-doesn%e2%80%99t-mean-you%e2%80%99re-not-in-deep-trouble\/","title":{"rendered":"Just Because You Don\u2019t Have Problems in Your Marriage, Doesn\u2019t Mean You\u2019re Not in Deep Trouble"},"content":{"rendered":"

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A couple months ago, I lost a good friend to a heart attack.\u00a0 The interesting thing about it is, we all thought he was healthy as an ox.\u00a0 There were no signs or symptoms.\u00a0 He just went on a walk, sat down, and died.\u00a0 Since then I have found out that he, like many of my buddies, avoided going to the doctor for a yearly check up.\u00a0 They ignored their health because, as far as they could tell, they were ok.<\/p>\n

I see this also happening in relationships, particularly in marriages.\u00a0 As Paula and I have been preparing for our first-ever live event called \u201cMaking Marriage Fun Again,<\/a>\u201d we\u2019ve heard all kinds of excuses as to why people won\u2019t pay the price to attend the event.\u00a0 The one that I hear most often is simply this: \u201cHey my marriage is ok.\u00a0 We don\u2019t have any problems.\u00a0 We never argue.\u00a0 We\u2019re fine.\u201d\u00a0 When you dig a little deeper into that statement, what you also find is, \u201cWe never argue, we never talk, we don\u2019t have sex, there is no intimacy, and we\u2019re living in marriage detente on our way to marriage hell.\u201d<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s my point.\u00a0 Just because you don\u2019t have any problems doesn\u2019t mean that your marriage may not be in big trouble. <\/strong> You know the quickest way to find out?\u00a0 Sit down without distraction and look at your spouse, and unpack your entire life together.\u00a0 \u201cHow are you doing, Sweetheart?\u00a0 Are we doing ok?\u00a0 Am I being a good lover?\u00a0 Am I loving you in a way that makes you feel respected, appreciated, and regarded?\u201d<\/p>\n

You get the point.\u00a0 If your marriage \u201cseems to be ok,\u201d <\/em>why not come to \u201cMaking Marriage Fun Again,\u201d<\/a> or any marriage event?\u00a0 It doesn\u2019t have to be ours.\u00a0 Get some tools, some information, and some teaching.\u00a0 One of the dumbest things we do is think that marriage just comes naturally, just comes easy. <\/strong> You find someone, marry them, and it all just kind of works itself out.\u00a0 It doesn\u2019t.\u00a0 It ends up in marriage hell and often, too many times, in divorce.<\/p>\n

The only way you know that your marriage is on the way to amazing<\/em>, not to hell, is to sit down and strike a standard.\u00a0 At \u201cMaking Marriage Fun Again\u201d<\/a> we\u2019re going to present the seven absolute must-haves of an amazing marriage.<\/strong> They must be there.\u00a0 They are not optional.\u00a0 And if you don\u2019t know what they are and how they work together in order to grow a great marriage over time, then you are ignoring help that you desperately need.<\/p>\n

Here is my conviction: most of the couples we have dealt with, whose marriages have ended (and there are too many to count), ended not because he was a bad man or she was a bad woman, it was because they didn\u2019t get help while they still cared<\/em>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Your marriage needs help; so does mine.\u00a0 Get the help you need while you still care and your life and relationships in your family will go to levels you\u2019ve only dreamed of.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

A couple months ago, I lost a good friend to a heart attack.\u00a0 The interesting thing about it is, we all thought he was healthy as an ox.\u00a0 There were no signs or symptoms.\u00a0 He just went on a walk, sat down, and died.\u00a0 Since then I have found out that he, like many of … Continue reading “Just Because You Don\u2019t Have Problems in Your Marriage, Doesn\u2019t Mean You\u2019re Not in Deep Trouble”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[],"series":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1910"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1910"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1910\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1910"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1910"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1910"},{"taxonomy":"series","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/series?post=1910"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}