{"id":2227,"date":"2010-06-20T14:03:57","date_gmt":"2010-06-20T20:03:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/192.185.166.32\/~davidfoster\/?p=2227"},"modified":"2010-06-20T14:03:57","modified_gmt":"2010-06-20T20:03:57","slug":"today-the-gathering-you-need-a-better-class-of-dude-who-you-hang-around-is-what-you%e2%80%99ll-become","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/today-the-gathering-you-need-a-better-class-of-dude-who-you-hang-around-is-what-you%e2%80%99ll-become\/","title":{"rendered":"Today @ The Gathering: You Need a Better Class of Dude; Who You Hang Around is What You\u2019ll Become"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\"\"Today @ The Gathering<\/a> we continued our series, “12 Steps Up: How Messy People Mature.” We talked about the importance of relationships.\u00a0 You were made and created for relationships.<\/strong> And yet our own woundedness has a way of getting in the way of bringing people in really close.<\/p>\n

Today we talked about the fact that people who make life meaningful are also often the kind of people that make it messy.\u00a0 So how do you find a better class of friend; someone who will come close and stay on the journey with you to not just healing, but figuring out just how good life can be?<\/p>\n

We talked about what happens when a person does life alone<\/strong>.\u00a0 They wind up as a victim: complaining, skape-goating, side-stepping, and asking other people to pity them.\u00a0 And that\u2019s not who you are.\u00a0 God created you a winner, not a victim.\u00a0 Winners are people who accept the responsibility for their own lives and behaviors and ask for accountability of other good people to live the life of their dreams.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Today we talked about those characteristics of the people you need to look for: the people who can shut up<\/strong> after you\u2019ve told them a secret, the people who can stand up<\/strong> and show up; the people who can speak up <\/strong>and say \u201cno\u201d to you, the people who help lift you and spur you on to greatnes<\/strong>s, the people who can challenge you<\/strong> to do more than you think you can do.<\/p>\n

Right now, stop, and list the five people in your inner circle who meet the qualities that I talked about today.\u00a0 If you don\u2019t have them, get on the search today.\u00a0 And if you can\u2019t find them after you’ve searched for them, here\u2019s the secret: be these things to someone else<\/strong> and you\u2019ll attract the right kind of person.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Today @ The Gathering we continued our series, “12 Steps Up: How Messy People Mature.” We talked about the importance of relationships.\u00a0 You were made and created for relationships. And yet our own woundedness has a way of getting in the way of bringing people in really close. Today we talked about the fact that … Continue reading “Today @ The Gathering: You Need a Better Class of Dude; Who You Hang Around is What You\u2019ll Become”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11],"tags":[],"series":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2227"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2227"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2227\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2227"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2227"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2227"},{"taxonomy":"series","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/series?post=2227"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}