{"id":2334,"date":"2010-07-06T04:22:25","date_gmt":"2010-07-06T10:22:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/192.185.166.32\/~davidfoster\/?p=2334"},"modified":"2010-07-05T16:26:14","modified_gmt":"2010-07-05T22:26:14","slug":"dave-rave-5-things-you-should-never-ever-ever-say-to-another-human-being","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/dave-rave-5-things-you-should-never-ever-ever-say-to-another-human-being\/","title":{"rendered":"Dave Rave – 5 Things You Should Never, Ever, Ever Say to Another Human Being"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"daverave\"You would think, for a guy who has made his living for the last 38 years using words, I\u2019d know better than to say some of the things that I say.\u00a0 Hopefully I could say \u201cI have said,\u201d as in the past.<\/p>\n

I am learning a little about the power of words<\/strong>.\u00a0 Words are far more powerful than bombs and guns and cars and lightning.\u00a0 Words create and destroy worlds.\u00a0 Words form and shape reputations.\u00a0 Words actually call into existence things that don\u2019t exist, as in \u201cIn the beginning God created.\u201d God spoke, and it came to be.<\/p>\n

So think about the power of words as you talk and relate to the people who matter in your life<\/strong>.\u00a0 And let me give you five things you should never say to anyone that matters.\u00a0 Maybe I should say, \u201cnever say to anyone.\u201d<\/p>\n

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  1. Never say, \u201cYou never…\u201d <\/strong>In the heat of the moment we look at a person and say, \u201cYou never do what you say you will do, you never show up, you never tell me you love me.\u201d\u00a0 Those are absolute statements from which there is no return, and no reply that isn\u2019t painful.<\/li>\n
  2. Never say, \u201cYou always…\u201d<\/strong> This is another overstatement of your emotion not intended to communicate or move the relationship or the project forward, but meant to hurt, to lay low.\u00a0 And the truth of the matter is all it really does is widen the gap between you and the person you\u2019re speaking to.<\/li>\n
  3. You should never say, \u201cI can\u2019t take it anymore.\u201d<\/strong> C\u2019mon, let\u2019s be honest.\u00a0 You can\u2019t take it anymore?\u00a0 Yeah, you can.\u00a0 You can take a lot more than you think you can.\u00a0 But \u201cI can\u2019t take it anymore\u201d cuts off constructive conversation that might allow the relationship to go to a better place.<\/li>\n
  4. Never say, \u201cYou\u2019re going to regret this.\u201d<\/strong> Whatever a person has done to you that causes you to feel this much anger to say that, may very well be the thing they intended to do, and they may never regret it.\u00a0 What you\u2019re really saying is that you hope<\/em> they will regret it.<\/li>\n
  5. Never say to another living human being, \u201cYou\u2019re worthless.\u201d <\/strong> Let me tell you what I know for sure, after working with people on the deepest levels for my entire life.\u00a0 People already feel bad enough.\u00a0 All the bravado that we send out that says \u201cI\u2019m rough, tough, and hard to bluff\u201d is a mask to cover up the fact that we feel stupid, lazy, unimportant, unloved, or undesirable.\u00a0 Never say, \u201cYou\u2019re worthless.\u201d\u00a0 You almost guarantee the end of the relationship.\u00a0 And that\u2019s tough, particularly if you are working together and you depend on your livelihood from this source of employment.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Obviously there are many more things, but these are the ones that keep coming up in conversations, and I\u2019m asking you to just say, \u201cI will never say anything to another person that isn\u2019t kind, good, and helpful.”<\/strong> My mantra for intelligent talking will be, \u201cBe kind, be good, be helpful, or be quiet.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    You would think, for a guy who has made his living for the last 38 years using words, I\u2019d know better than to say some of the things that I say.\u00a0 Hopefully I could say \u201cI have said,\u201d as in the past. I am learning a little about the power of words.\u00a0 Words are far … Continue reading “Dave Rave – 5 Things You Should Never, Ever, Ever Say to Another Human Being”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[],"series":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2334"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2334"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2334\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2334"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2334"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2334"},{"taxonomy":"series","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/series?post=2334"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}