{"id":2478,"date":"2010-07-20T04:25:24","date_gmt":"2010-07-20T10:25:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/192.185.166.32\/~davidfoster\/?p=2478"},"modified":"2010-07-19T19:31:52","modified_gmt":"2010-07-20T01:31:52","slug":"dave-rave-%e2%80%93-five-best-phrases-you-can-use-at-home-at-work-or-anyplace-else","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/dave-rave-%e2%80%93-five-best-phrases-you-can-use-at-home-at-work-or-anyplace-else\/","title":{"rendered":"Dave Rave \u2013 Five Best Phrases You Can Use at Home, at Work, or Anyplace Else"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"daverave\"Words create worlds.\u00a0 They start wars.\u00a0 They can bring people together or they can tear people apart.<\/p>\n

We were born to talk; not so that we could be right, but so that we could be close.\u00a0 But how hard is it to find the right words? It must be difficult because most people live alienated not so much because of their actions, but because of their words.<\/p>\n

Here are five of the very best phrases you can use in your marriage, with your children, at work, or anyplace else.<\/p>\n

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  1. \u201cTogether we can.\u201d<\/strong> Say this to another person and the pressure in the room goes down dramatically.\u00a0\u00a0 It says that we\u2019re in this together.\u00a0 It\u2019s not just you.\u00a0 And it\u2019s not just me.\u00a0 Or it\u2019s not me against you.\u00a0 But together.\u00a0 What a beautiful word.\u00a0 That\u2019s why we get married, so we can be together.\u00a0 That\u2019s why we form companies, alliances, sports teams; because we realize together we can be so much more.\u00a0 Use the phrase together we can<\/em> as much as you can, in any situation that you can.<\/li>\n
  2. \u201cI would love to help.\u201d<\/strong> This lets the other person know that you\u2019re leaning forward into the relationship, that you\u2019re motivated, that you\u2019re engaged, that you would love to help the marriage go to the next level, you\u2019d love to help your children reach their goals, you\u2019d love to help collaborate to make the next project that your company launches the best success yet.<\/li>\n
  3. \u201cBefore we react, let\u2019s take a step back and chill.\u201d<\/strong> How much damage is caused by pure emotion and overreacting?\u00a0 I often advise couples to not just watch how they react in the dating relationship, but how they react when things go wrong.\u00a0 Almost all things said and done in the heat of the moment are the wrong things to be said and done.\u00a0 Often the damage done by the emotional responses is all out of proportion to the situation and can take literally years to repair.<\/li>\n
  4. \u201cI understand your point of view.\u201d <\/strong> This is a phrase of respect.\u00a0 And that\u2019s what we owe each other isn\u2019t it?\u00a0 Particularly in relationships, in our marriage, or even in our work environment.\u00a0\u00a0 \u201cI understand your point of view.\u201d It doesn\u2019t say that I agree, and it doesn\u2019t say that I would come out at the same place if it were me, but I understand you, that you\u2019re smart, intelligent, thoughtful, and I\u2019m showing you the respect that you deserve.\u00a0 And it\u2019s amazing how willing people are to negotiate with people who they know respect them and are willing to listen to their point of view,<\/li>\n
  5. Maybe the best phrase of all that can be said, \u201cI\u2019m sorry.\u00a0 How can I make it right?\u201d<\/strong> Let\u2019s be honest.\u00a0 Conflict is inevitable whether it\u2019s in a marriage, parenting, a work environment, a team, or just guys hanging out.\u00a0 You\u2019re going to have to say you\u2019re sorry, but not reluctantly, and not flippantly.\u00a0 But when you say, \u201cI\u2019m sorry.\u00a0 How can I make it right?\u201d you\u2019re saying that you\u2019re taking responsibility for your part in the conflict or the problem.\u00a0 You\u2019re not just showing respect, you\u2019re saying, \u201cI\u2019m a person who can be trusted even when I\u2019ve failed to deliver on what I promised.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    These are five of the best phrases you can use to bring about harmony, cooperation, and ultimate success.<\/strong> Use them often.\u00a0 Find ways to work them into your team meetings.\u00a0 Tell people that this is what you expect in your day-to-day relationships.\u00a0 Even when the friction of speed, disagreement, and market forces pressure you into unhealthy ways of communication, you\u2019ll hold true in these phrases that promote respect, honor and long-term trust.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Words create worlds.\u00a0 They start wars.\u00a0 They can bring people together or they can tear people apart. We were born to talk; not so that we could be right, but so that we could be close.\u00a0 But how hard is it to find the right words? It must be difficult because most people live alienated … Continue reading “Dave Rave \u2013 Five Best Phrases You Can Use at Home, at Work, or Anyplace Else”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[],"series":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2478"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2478"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2478\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2478"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2478"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2478"},{"taxonomy":"series","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/series?post=2478"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}