{"id":2763,"date":"2010-08-24T03:27:40","date_gmt":"2010-08-24T09:27:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/192.185.166.32\/~davidfoster\/?p=2763"},"modified":"2010-08-26T20:31:12","modified_gmt":"2010-08-27T02:31:12","slug":"dave-rave-%e2%80%93-five-mistakes-you-can%e2%80%99t-recover-from","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/dave-rave-%e2%80%93-five-mistakes-you-can%e2%80%99t-recover-from\/","title":{"rendered":"Dave Rave \u2013 Five Mistakes You Can\u2019t Recover From"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"daverave\"In a recent blog I talked about mistakes and the difference between mistakes of competency and mistakes of character.<\/p>\n

One of the greatest problems with mistakes of character is that the pain and aggravation of them usually lies on the surface of emotion or gets deflected over to another person or group, and never really sinks deep into the soul where ultimate change can take place.<\/p>\n

To push that idea a little further, here are five mistakes from which you cannot recover:<\/p>\n

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  1. Adultery.<\/strong> Adultery is rampant in our culture. Ask people like Tiger Woods and the results displayed in his life.\u00a0 Ask politicians.\u00a0 Famous people just like ordinary people cannot escape the nuclear fallout that arises from adultery.\u00a0 Adultery is the ultimate betrayal.\u00a0 It bares naked the soul.\u00a0 It is narcissistic, wounded, and can\u2019t be trusted.\u00a0 Adultery is expensive both in monetary terms and its relational fallout.\u00a0 Avoid it like you would the plague.<\/li>\n
  2. Pride.<\/strong> Pride is that inner drive that causes us to act against our own self-interest, even when everyone else can see it.\u00a0 Pride is lifting oneself up to a place which is not earned and cannot be sustained.\u00a0 Pride is so painful because it makes the bearer blind and deaf.\u00a0 It\u2019s like walking toward a cliff.\u00a0 Everyone can see you\u2019re near the end but you.<\/li>\n
  3. Resentment. <\/strong> You might say, \u201cYeah, resentment can be recovered from.\u201d\u00a0 Yes, I would agree.\u00a0 But too many times it\u2019s not.\u00a0 Resentment is bitterness that\u2019s taken hold deep down in the soul and it poisons the well of everything you try to do.\u00a0 It blocks the free flow of life because unforgiveness cuts you off, not only from God, but from everyone else.<\/li>\n
  4. Laziness.<\/strong> Laziness can\u2019t be recovered from because it wastes away the capital of life.\u00a0 It has no motivation or drive except that which comes from fear.\u00a0 And when you\u2019re driven by fear, you\u2019re being manipulated.\u00a0 Laziness discounts life as cheap, and people as something to be avoided.<\/li>\n
  5. Assumptions.<\/strong> Of all of these, assumptions are probably the most deadly.\u00a0 Let\u2019s say that you are a middle-aged man and you eat like you are a teenager.\u00a0 You fail to exercise because you\u2019re too busy and you don\u2019t have time.\u00a0 You wake up at 42 and have a massive heart attack.\u00a0 Triple bypass surgery and a for sure shortened life is now yours because you, as so many others do, assumed that you\u2019d live forever and that you wouldn\u2019t have to take care of your body because you\u2019ve always been able to abuse it.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Assumptions are also deadly in marriage: assuming she\u2019ll always be home because she\u2019s always been home, that she\u2019ll take care of the kids, and that she\u2019ll always think you are her hero.\u00a0 It leads to neglect which a lot of people do after you get distanced.\u00a0 Communication dries up and all of a sudden you wake up and you don\u2019t care anymore.\u00a0 Assumptions in business, in life, and in relationships are all deadly and you need to avoid them at all costs.<\/p>\n

    What\u2019s the antidote to all five of these?\u00a0 Gratitude, humility, and joy of work.\u00a0 Gratitude, humility, and joy of work<\/strong>, that\u2019s what I said.\u00a0 those simple things can get you up every day, remind you that life is a gift, that while you are not everything, you are something, and while you can\u2019t do everything, you can do your<\/em> thing.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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