{"id":941,"date":"2009-11-13T08:29:48","date_gmt":"2009-11-13T13:29:48","guid":{"rendered":"632368326"},"modified":"2009-11-13T08:29:48","modified_gmt":"2009-11-13T13:29:48","slug":"dave-rave-7-best-ways-to-get-even","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/dave-rave-7-best-ways-to-get-even\/","title":{"rendered":"Dave Rave – 7 Best Ways to Get Even"},"content":{"rendered":"

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<\/strong>\"daverave\"If you\u2019ve been hurt, betrayed, fired, put out in the cold; if you\u2019ve been lied to and hurt, then join the human race.<\/p>\n

Let me be quick to say that in no way am I trying to diminish what you\u2019ve gone through. It is hurtful to lose a job, to be betrayed by the very people you\u2019ve loved and trusted, to find yourself on the outside, or to wonder where your next paycheck is going to come from.\u00a0 But it is something that everyone faces sooner or later.<\/p>\n

The question is not whether you\u2019ll be betrayed, hurt, or kicked to the curb at some point in your life.\u00a0 The question is what do you do to get even with those who have hurt you, deceived you, attacked you, and gone out of their way to make sure the maximum amount of damage is done to you?<\/p>\n

You can sit and ponder about how to get even.\u00a0 You can sulk and become sour and cynical.\u00a0 Or you can get even.\u00a0 Here are the seven best ways I know to get even with those who have done you wrong.<\/p>\n

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  1. Be happy.<\/strong> That\u2019s right.\u00a0 Be happy.\u00a0 Smile.\u00a0 Accept that sometimes in life even the best people lose, and sometimes in life things aren\u2019t fair.\u00a0 Accept that it\u2019s just now your turn.\u00a0 Put a smile on your face.\u00a0 Be thankful for what you have left; your life, your health, the friends you have yet to make, the new opportunities that will now come as you\u2019re able to spend time and energy focusing in a new direction.\u00a0 Just be happy.\u00a0 If you can\u2019t find happiness within yourself, on your own terms, then no job or achievement will make you happy.\u00a0 The world is filled with really angry, wealthy, successful people.<\/li>\n
  2. Live well.<\/strong> That is, care for yourself, physically and emotionally.\u00a0 Don\u2019t allow yourself to lie on the couch and feel sorry.\u00a0 Don\u2019t slip into a pity party.\u00a0 Don\u2019t gain weight and let flab develop around your brain.\u00a0 Just simply live well.\u00a0 Get up and go to the gym.\u00a0 Maybe you have extra time to focus on your physical well- being; time you\u2019ve never had before.\u00a0 Just find ways to build habits into your life that you\u2019ve let slip because you\u2019ve been too busy trying to climb the ladder of success.<\/li>\n
  3. Build something.<\/strong> Build a new company.\u00a0 Build a house.\u00a0 Build a strategy.\u00a0 Build a new career.\u00a0 We\u2019re builders, so build something.\u00a0 Just because you have to start all over again, doesn\u2019t necessarily mean that\u2019s a bad thing.\u00a0 I\u2019ve learned at the end of every good thing is a better thing waiting to be born if we\u2019re willing to receive it.<\/li>\n
  4. Help someone else who\u2019s going through what you\u2019ve gone through. <\/strong>Get outside yourself and show empathy, compassion, and caring for someone else.<\/li>\n
  5. Gain a reputation for being the most generous, redemptive person in the room.<\/strong> Just because something is taken from you, doesn\u2019t mean you don\u2019t have a lot left to give.\u00a0 Be generous, redemptive; be a healer with your words.\u00a0 Don\u2019t be sour and abrasive.\u00a0 Gain a reputation for being the kind of person that whenever you enter the room, everyone leans forward and smiles.\u00a0 Add something to the conversation.\u00a0 Don\u2019t always be looking for someone\u2019s shoulder to cry on.\u00a0 Find someone and pat them on the back and laugh.\u00a0 Gain the reputation for being the kind of person people want to be like.<\/li>\n
  6. Be redemptive. <\/strong> Think about those who hurt you.\u00a0 Pray for them.\u00a0 Let them go.\u00a0 Don\u2019t worry about retaliation or retribution.\u00a0 Let God balance the scales.\u00a0 Remember that God\u2019s forgiven you much.\u00a0 You\u2019ve been redeemed and graced in ways that you don\u2019t even understand.\u00a0 Since God has treated you lovingly and redemptively, show that characteristic in your life with other people.<\/li>\n
  7. Don\u2019t hide. <\/strong> One of the weirdest things we do in life is that we hide from the people who have hurt us as though we have something to be ashamed of.\u00a0 When you see people who have hurt you, maybe deeply, don\u2019t go out the back door.\u00a0 Don\u2019t run.\u00a0 Walk up to them, extend your hand, smile, lean forward.\u00a0 They\u2019ll wonder what drugs you\u2019re on or what you\u2019ve been smoking because the normal human response is to snub people, and walk on the other side of the road.\u00a0 But you\u2019re bigger and better than that.\u00a0 Don\u2019t hide from people.\u00a0 Don\u2019t shy away.\u00a0 Extend your hand.\u00a0 Ask how they are doing and mean it.\u00a0 Be compassionate and gracious.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Maybe you can think of more, but these are the best ways I know to get even.\u00a0 Your best defense is a life well-lived, not a score to be made even.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    If you\u2019ve been hurt, betrayed, fired, put out in the cold; if you\u2019ve been lied to and hurt, then join the human race. Let me be quick to say that in no way am I trying to diminish what you\u2019ve gone through. It is hurtful to lose a job, to be betrayed by the very … Continue reading “Dave Rave – 7 Best Ways to Get Even”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[],"series":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/941"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=941"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/941\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=941"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=941"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=941"},{"taxonomy":"series","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.davidfoster.tv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/series?post=941"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}